Good morning! I sit here, Sandy asleep (and snoring) beside me. The air is cool and dry enough for open windows. There is literal birdsong in the background. Readers: Happy Saturday!
I'm a little peeved because my iPhone has gone Sierra Tango Bravo and won't turn on. Dead. Flat. Nada.
In some ways, it's kind of exciting.
In other ways, all my sweet pics for the Friday Five are on that phone, so that post has been forsaken (or just put off until tomorrow).
Until then, I ran across this quote randomly on tumblr. It's from another tumblr blogger who goes by the name of Caviria. I don't follow that account but saw it reposted and almost passed this quote by. To be fair, it doesn't 'speak' to me in the way a lot of words do, but the sentiment is thought-provoking not just for teens but for all of us.
Here's the quote:
dear tweens and teens: please dont equate “self care” with buying a bunch of useless shit because some shill account on instagram told you to. any type of “self care” that involves consumerism is snake oil and a better way to care for yourself and build your personal self worth is through self actualizing activities i.e. go make art, go plant trees, go volunteer for a food bank, go organize!!!
I have a tween daughter, so I stopped when I saw it was addressed to tweens, but I think the point can be applied to all of us. Self care is such a hot idea right now. There are people all across the web putting rose petals in bath water and talking about eucalyptus leaves (in various forms). We're told to buy a face mask, pour a warm milk bath and apply a salt (or sugar) scrub to our dry skin, sloughing off the dead skin cells and all of our worries in one finely-scented scrub.
I hear terms like 'retail therapy' tossed around, an oxymoron if I've ever heard one.
And I keep hearing about self care as it relates to rest, down-time or opting out of life in some way, as if life itself might be the problem and we all need an escape.
I think of self care simply as a way to keep myself healthy enough to participate in life more fully, so it is filled with less-than-glamorous things like getting to bed on time, drinking water, eating leafy greens, taking vitamin D supplements, reading (okay, that's pretty glamorous) and not using electronics in the evening, lest my already melatonin-averse body decide to stay up even later.
Self care, for me, isn't about hot stone massages or pedicures or herbal tea, per se. It's just about what it takes to keep ourselves healthy enough to engage and enjoy life rather than simply endure it because we're all tired from late nights, grumpy from too much sugar and achy from extra weight.
I know...rose petals are a lot nicer and make better Instagram stories.
Anyway, I love the quote above and the final sentiment about self-actualizing activities. Go make art. Go volunteer with a food bank. Go plant trees. Go organize (something more than your beauty supplies).
When I think of good self care in these terms, I think about the books I'd like to read, the time I'd like to spend outdoors, the food I'd like to cook, the people I want to see, the hugs I'd like to get (and receive) and a whole bunch of other stuff that can't be bought in a store.
If you could define self care in these terms, devoid of consumerism, what would it look like?
Does it even matter?
I'm off to buy a laptop for school, put some blinds on my windows (because I finally came to terms with accepting I don't have $1k right now for Pottery Barn drapes) and taking Sandy for a little outdoor time.
I hope everyone is enjoying a lovely day, with fall right round the corner and bit of it already in the air.