I was looking for a quote referenced by a reader here at A Well-Spent Day, Jenn after a post I wrote on Housewife Life: Rage Cleaning + Taking Responsibility.
She noted that Anthony Bourdain, in his 2010 book, wrote a great paragraph about kids and cooking and having basic kitchen skills. I recalled a paragraph like that, so I took to the web to find it.
I wasn't particularly successful, though, so I had to pull out the actual book (which thankfully I kept even through all of my KonMari decluttering).
But....while I was searching the web, I came across heaps of other Bourdain quotes, and this one really stands out to me:
We are obsessed with safety and security and afraid to make any decisions that might take us even the tiniest bit outside of our comfort zones.
And by 'us' I obviously mean myself.
I have written before about my analysis-paralysis, but I'll say it again: I can over-analyze a decision like nobody's business.
I wonder if it's a good financial investment, if it will make me 'happy' down the road, what other people will think of it, if it will be a waste of time, what it will mean to my role as a mother, how it will impact my family life, if it will be the wrong decision or the right decision.....
On and on it goes, and while I entertain all of these fears, I make no decision at all.
And somehow, ten years pass by (an entire decade) and all of the options I was considering have grown stale.
It's a present-day manifestation of Sylvia Plath's famous fig quote:
Perhaps the truth is that in the 'West' (or in places where our basic needs are met and we live reasonably comfortable lives), we have the option of pondering decisions, analyzing them and, ultimately, not making them.
Are there any decisions you are afraid to make? Putting off? Over-analyzing?
Are you looking for a guarantee of safety? And what if you weren't? Would your decisions look different then?
I'm off to scan Bourdain's book and search for that paragraph and just enjoy his writing. I wish we had more time with him.