I just finished listening to this book as well. To be fair, I only had two chapters left to go. I listened to it a few months ago, over the summer, after I suggested my sister read Sincero’s original bestseller, You Are a Badass.
I was inspired by many changes ongoing in my sister’s life (more about that on another day), and I wanted to get all jazzed like was, so I downloaded You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth, even though I didn’t think I’d like a book about making money.
I kind of love the minimalist movement, which is about a life beyond money, about freeing ourselves from the constraints of consumerism. So, why would I want to read a book that was trying to make me a badass at getting the thing that was, according to many philosophies, tying to me like a ball-and-chain to unhappiness, discontent, materialism and lack of awareness?
I downloaded it because Sincero is hilarious and her first book was strikingly on-point about so many of the things I’ve experienced, the dodgy feelings I’ve had and the suck-fest that can sometimes be my life (all internal, of course).
I should also note that I’ve been driving my daughter to school, at her request. She’s not one to request something like this. She’s never had an issue taking the bus, so when she asked, I said yes. I have a feeling there is something going on on the bus that she’s uncomfortable telling me about, so I’m listening to my internal mother compass and getting out of my robe to drive her the 20 minutes to school. The one caveat? I told her we have to listen to books on tape.
I think she debates taking the bus, but so far she’s gone along with it. Whatever is going on inside that bus must be truly wretched.
We’ve been listening to the last bit of this book, and though she won't crack a smile (in silent protest to not being able to listen to pop music), I like to think the lessons are sinking in.
Fingers crossed that it is both useful and age-appropriate for her. I sometimes teeter on that razor-thin line.
Here are 10 Things About You Are a Badass at Making Money:
Sincero’s stories and general writing are hilarious and still relatable. She’s not so funny that she can’t be serious. She’s not so serious that you feel like you’ve been beat over the head with the book. She really strikes a nice balance.
As a writer, she basically describes my writing career perfectly - the fear of asking for more money, the constant wondering if a new project will come along, the love of the art, the ultimate lack of sustainability of it if you think you can’t make it a business.
She will get at the very heart of your issues with money very quickly - that is, why you’re afraid of it, why you have a negative relationship with it and why you think you don’t deserve it. Just be prepared.
Many of the lessons I took from this book go far beyond money. Attitude, expectation, willingness to succeed (through failure), fear, etc. are all linked to just about any aspect of our lives. That we are afraid to address these things in relation to money only speaks to the importance of this unique relationship.
She gives concrete tasks at the end of each chapter. This is kind of gimmicky. Self-help books do this. I used to think this was a way to take up space - big boxes of numbered lists or to-do style directions. But….you know….there is value in that. Her questions or tasks are useful. She isn’t off-point.
I no longer completely trust people who disavow money or speak about ‘prostitution of the soul.’ Money has become a sort of scapegoat. The people I know who have the best relationships with money neither worship nor demonize it; they use it as the tool it is. Money is like any other tool - a means to an end. It’s like a fork. You use the fork to get the food in your mouth. It’s not a god. It’s not terrible to have to use the fork. Certainly you could eat with your hands or use a spoon or whatever else you can come up with, but why not just see the fork for what it is, use it, wash it and move on with life? I kind of see money like the fork after reading her book - a tool I definitely find useful, want to have, am willing to work for and don’t attribute emotions to.
Sincero’s story about the goats is worth the book alone. I was laughing out loud, and I’m not a person who laughs out loud often. Ask my daughter.
One of my favorite quotes from the book is: “What comes out of your mouth comes into your life.” (no idea on page numbers, as I listened to audio).
Another favorite quote is: “RICH: able to afford all the things and experiences required to fully experience your most authentic life.” See how she doesn’t set a number? See how she isn't trying to make you a millionaire? The definition of RICH will be different for each person, and it will include far more than money. But you’ve got to think about what you want, what kind of life feels authentic and real to you, before you can determine what you need to get there. I know, it feels all skeezy and slimy to think in black-and-white about this stuff, but let me tell you this: not thinking about it doesn’t get you any further ahead or give you any moral high ground (speaking from experience).
I recommend this book to people daily. Daily. I even bought it as a gift for someone (who expressed an interest in reading it). Even if there are parts that don’t resonate, even if it’s a little whoohoo cheezy sometimes (which Sincero admits and embraces), there’s a lot to learn, to consider and to put into action from this book.
Above all, this book will make you think about the way you think about money. Sincero gives you little lessons, tasks, homework assignments at the end of each chapter (par for the course with self-help these days - which I love), and one of them to fill in the blank : I am grateful to money because……
At first you scoff (and by you I mean me). At first you think: I’m grateful for my health, my family, love and sunshine…but not money. Money doesn’t have that kind of value or meaning in my life. But then…while you’re doing the dishes and wiping down the professional-grade cooktop you purchased and the quartz countertops you love and feeling the beautiful, walnut-stained hardwood floors under your feet, you might just think (for a sliver of a second): wow…I’m grateful to money for all of these lovely things, for the fact that I can provide my kids with clothes and a house and a car to drive them to Dick’s Sporting Goods (again). I know that money isn’t the real thing that provides all of that (hard work, responsible choices, etc. does that), but without getting into semantics, money can provide some lovely side dishes to life’s entrees of meaning.
This book is basically the power of positive thinking with some wit, cute stories, inspiration and focus on money. Now, we could debate whether or not positive thinking actually improves life in a tangible, concrete, quantifiable way, but the alternative is negative thinking.
I have found that negative thinking doesn’t protect you from pain, keep you safe or any of the other hopes we have by engaging in it. It just makes us miserable on the daily, so even if positive thinking isn’t going to radically change my life, it’s better than going around feeling like I don’t deserve something, can’t do something, don’t want something (that I really want), can’t manage something, am not entitled to something and don't really need something anyway.
*something = money
Finally, within a month of listening to this (all but the last 2 chapters), I’d gotten several new writing jobs, had two job interviews in town and was enrolled in an MS program - all within 30 days. So, I’ll be listening to it again starting tomorrow. :)
I’m off now to eat my chicken salad and drink a new wine that has me swooning. Seriously. More on that tomorrow.